Blond Gym Guy

Friday August 27th 2010

I am going to warn you all about victim mentality.

Victims use words like:

• I had no choice.
• How can you do this to me?
• You dont understand my situation.
• You're making me do _____.
• I'm trying! (When they actually do anything but.)

Don't ever try and help a victim. Nothing you ever do will be good enough. Victims dont say thank u. Victims use. Victims are best left alone, and not to be trifled with. Don't befreind a victim. They may seem nice on the surface but me, me, me wears on you. Victims like to cry, because it draws people to try and make them stop. Victims call themselves caring people but want to be cared for. Victims take the easy way out.

My BF and I said goodbye to the Victim on Friday night and then again on Tuesday night just to make sure it stuck. There were tears, ambulances, curses and a smidge of throwing personal property. Lots of garbage bags were involved as well as elbow grease. We erased the Victim from our house in the span of an hour. Lysol was used to mask her scent and anything that could go into the wash did. It took us 3 hours to get to bed that night but the lost sleep was worth it.

For the first time in 10 months, there was peace in our house.

Sunday, May 2nd, 2010

Saturday included..

• A trip to the gym for 30 minutes of carbs.
• Laundry
• 10 minutes of cleaning out my closet. (This is an ongoing project since less is the new more)
• Eating eggs and my big carb load.
• Waiting far too long before taking allergy medication.
• The BF has been told that nicotine is the perfect drug. I disagree, I think it's caffine laced with painkillers. I have taken some.
• Finding a new book to read in my pile of 20.
• Getting my work life in order by getting organized.
• Fussing with my hair
• Gathering the courgae to get waxed
• Having a nap

 

Wednesday April 28th, 2010

Life is all about P's. Patience, perspective and pride. The first two you must have in abudnace, the last one have as little as you can manage. When I focus on these things it all works out.

I try not to blog about work, but these 3 P's have gotten me noticed moreso than I ever thought possible.

At home, I try to focus more on my partner and be in the moment. Perspective.

At the gym I am patient but proud.. I didnt get fat overnight, and I wont get thin either.

Wednesday April 21st, 2010

Living a drama free life is especially dificult when you live with a member of the oposite sex. Extraordinarily dificult when that member of the oposite sex is so fucked up it's crazy.

Tuesday March 30th, 2010

Questions to throw out there:

Is there such a thing as getting too much sleep? Is it unhealthy?

How do you wean yourself off TV and onto something more constructive? Anyone had any experience?

Has anyone got a balanced opinion of the Iphone 3gs? I dont need one anytime soon but wondered if it cam in handy for anything but burning money.

What do we think about Facebook these days? I look lots, just never post.

Has anyone done a childhood & adult sport quiting and getting back into it a few times? Any advice for staying in it for good? I was a swimmer, not, was, and now not again. Do I want to get back into it??

Saturday March 20th, 2010

About 5 years ago I realized that I was filling up my life with things. Books, CD's, DVD's you name it, I collected it. Then one day in a remarkable feet of self-realization, I figured out that these things don't define me, or how people view me.

I kept my books so people could see how smart I was. I had 400-500 books. Over the next 3 weeks I trimmed my book collection by about 350 books. It was liberating. I knew I was never going to read them again.

Then I went and tackled the closet. At that point I had 3 closets and 2 dressers filled with clothes. This weeding out process has taken far longer. I started with a one-in-two-out strategy which to now has gotten me down to a closet and half a dresser. Now it's about quality, not quantity. Gone are shirts I wore once, here to stay are shirts that I wear once a week. Notice I didn't say anything about price. Some of my favourite shirts came from Old navy for 5$. They are all gone now, worn out, but the practice of wearing what I like and keeping it still remains. Sometimes it pains me to donate away a shirt that was quite expense but that I ended up never wearing but it has to be done. 

My BF brought me back some clothes from his trip so now I face another purge. I think I can go to a 2-in-3-out policy now but the trades are always much harder now that all the crap is gone.

Now to figure out what to do with 6 pairs of jeans when I only need 2-3. What do you keep when you love them all?

Saturday March 6th 2010

I woke up at 6 am feeling quite exausted. I think I am coming down with something. I showered, shaved and got ready for my first appointment. At 9am I had the junk removal folks over to pick up all of our crap from the garage. 10 minutes later and 105$ less in my wallet, BF's bmw now fits in the garage awaiting his return.

I made a quick run to the bank and the dry cleaners prior to me heading to Vikki. Vikki fixes my neck my hamstrings too. Then a trip to the drug store, to pick up comics and some lip balm. Then a quick ice cream fix and I was down for the count. The rest of the day comprised of work, napping and a bit of TV.

By the way, Has anyone out there dabbled in permanent hair removal options? I'm a pretty hairy guy and unfortunatly, I look awful with hair on most of my body parts, especially my back and chest. Beyond getting the blade out a few times a week, has anyone tried waxing or laser?

This in no way passes judgement on hairy guys. My BF is a hairy guy. It suits him. I do like him to keep it trimmed, but it suits him. Me, not so much. I think we all draw the line at back hair though, my BF included.

No gym today kids, my body is telling me this should be my day off.

Friday February 26th, 2010

I wonder whether anybody else has those lists of things to do around the house that you just never get a chance to accomplish.

In no particular order I have carpets to replace, many walls to paint, pictures to hang, grout to re-grout, window treatments to buy, baseboards to clean and/or replace as well as a garage full of trash to dispose of.

In some cases money is involved and I am nothing if not cheap, but essentially I'm a lazy guy who likes to read and relax without concerning myself with housework or home repairs. In other cases i just have to call somebody to do the work. Is that so hard? Yes I guess it is.

I overthink the process too~~~ which comes first, paint, floors or baseboards?

Maybe I need to win the lottery on Friday and say F*** it all, I'm moving to someplace warm.

Wednesday February 24th, 2010

I read this great book last week called The Happiness Project. It was really interesting in that it said in order to be happy you have to try and be happy. Even fake it if you have to. Soon enough you will be.

Go here if you want to read more about it and her blog. I picked up some good hints. (I figured out that cleaning my closet makes you happy on my own)

Wednesday February 17th, 2010

You have to wonder sometimes what possesses people at the gym to walk around without flip flops on.

Do they get the germs that must be breading on the floor??

 

The gossip at the gym is that a member got kicked out..This never happens at my gym. No one is even spoken too. It turns out he went on some racist rant against one of the nicest guys at the gym and that was that. The sad part is that 40 years ago, he would have been subjected to racist rants.

I missed who it was but I got hints it was the old fart who bounces on the machines so he can lift tones of weight and dresses like a body builder from the 80's.

 

Our roommate is away another night thank god, so we will have peace and no drama. We are currently taking bets on how long she will be with us as she has chosen to give love a second chance.

Don’t you just love hopeless romantics even if they are completely hopeless and can’t see the forest for the trees?

Her book title would be….“Why do these bad things happen to me? I just want someone who looks like a player to love me.”

 

Anyways…

 

Monday, February 1st, 2010

Let’s play make-believe today…..

Let’s make-believe we have stuck to our diets all weekend.

Let’s make believe we went to the gym every day.

Let’s make believe that we didn’t freak out when we realized we threw out all of our 09 financial documents, or at least most of them.

Let’s make believe that we got all of our to-do lists completed over the weekend.

 

Let’s decide right now that things will be better this week.

 

We will pay attention.

We will watch what we eat.

We will be more organized.

We will get our sleep.

We will drink, but only appropriately and in moderation at the office conference.

We will try to listen, even if people are boring.

We will appreciate eye candy for what it is and not obsess over it.

 

Dec 21, 2009- Monday Edition

Helo.. Questions and Answers today my internet friends;

When did I get sick this weekend? Friday at about 5pm..typical.

Did I change something on the blog? -Yes. I deleted some old blogs that were getting lame, added some new ones and updated the music, trying to make it less gay. Not sure if it worked, I mean Susan Boyle??

Do you know how many Oreo McFlurries I had this weekend???NONE!

How many times did I go to the gym? NONE.

Did I finish my Christmas shopping, including the Wii? Yep.. by Friday at 430pm

Did I deposit the checks?  Just 1, the other has to be done on Thursday.

Groceries? Check., Dry Cleaning? Check

Massage & Haircut? Nope.

Abs By Forty: Still coming along.. 252 days to go

Sex? Oh yes my friends.. Afternoon sex.. the best.

Saturday Dec 19, 2009

Christmas?? Wha? It arrived at the house with a tree on Thursday night. I just cant get into the spirit..2 years running now.

Here is my list of things to do by 8pm Christmas eve.

• Buy gift for brother- 75$, Buy gift for baby nephew- 75$, buy generic gift for a guy-20$. Buy gift for my Nana- 50-75$.
• Deposit 2 checks in the bank totally 500$
• Get dry cleaning.
• Buy groceries. Lots of groceries. We have a houseguest.
• Buy housewarming gift for bother#2 a WII perhaps?
• Get hair cut/highlighted.
• Get massage?
• Call Junk people to pick up crap.
• Drop BF at the airport.
• oh and a little thing called sleep, work and gym

Tuesday Feb 24,2009

I look the thinest in the morning if i choose to look at myself in the mirror. It's bad because I'm letting my hair get very shitty looking. It's all brown and normal and getting longer by the day. Something must be done. No self respecting gay guy should look like this. What is the look? Short or long? I can do both.

The body makeover is coming along. Beyond ice cream from McDonalds, I am being good. Because it's dairy, that's ok right?? My bod better be looking good as I will be on the beach this weekend.

My Tuesday mornings are filled with the fun of paying bills and working on various projects. It's expensive and time consuming taking care of all the details of running my life. It's sort of disapointing then that I didn't win the lottery on Saturday and then be able to hire someone to take care of me. The visa card balance has dipped below 2 grand so that's something right?? I have some money inbound that should pretty much erase the balance in the next week.

I feel supremely guilty for having too much stuff in my house. I have to trim.

Christmas

This is my Christmas post. All is well. It's a quiet morning while I get ready for the trip to my bro's house for the day.

Really (really) Boring Saturday

My Saturday is promising to be boring but relaxing. I've watched Ocean's Thirteen for about the 20th time. I watched a movie called It's a Boy Girl thing. (actually quite a good movie, that made me cry. BTW when did I turn into a wuss?) All before 10am.

I should pick up my dry cleaning, buy a newspaper and maybe some drug store stuff. Laundry & a nap and a ppv movie could also be in my future too.

I'm just a bit restless today, I'm pissed off that I'm not healing up as fast as I want, I'm pissed off that I can't go to the gym and I'm pissed that I'm craving tonnes of bad food. I'm pissed off that I made a mistake at work a few weeks ago that came back to haunt me.

One of my biggest weakness is that I tend to be really hard on myself. When I screw up I mentally punish myself and I never see the positive side of myself. I'm not the best one to take my own advice of rolling with the punches.

And if I have to see that bowflex comerical about the guy giving all his fat clothes to his fat friends, I'm going to get all his fat friends together and we'll all gang rape him. Dear lord can we be a bit more undersatnding about overweight people in this society? They are human beings and need some dignity and respect.

I'm stil waiting for the recession. Didn't see it at the mall, dont really see it anywhere besides in my investments.

Saving Pennies?

I need to stop watching the news. It's just bad news and it probably means I'm working till I'm 65 unless there is a lotery win in my future. Hopefully my line of work stays ressesion proof.

In the meantime i think I need to review my cable bill. If I cancel the rugby chanel it will save me 15$ a month. That's 180 bucks a year and not a bad place to start in order to cut my spending.

Next on the list is to stop buying hardcover books. I have such a backlog I can afford to wait for softcover. I swear I must buy 10-30 hardcovers a year so the savings will be 100$-300$ a year at least.

I've already stopped buying as many clothes. I wear the same things over and over. Sad really. Maybe this weekend I'll pack another bag for charity. I fugure I'm spending 50$ less a month.

I have a little bit of a comic book adiction that I'm trying to rein in as well. I figure I can cut back 25$ a month without too much stress. We'll see how that goes as I'm setting my list for November.(Not so well)

Money Money Money

I am determined that for me, 2009 will be a debt free year for me.
Every penny I save will go to pay off the mortgage.
My investment will be in something solid and permanent.

Last month, for the first time in 24-18 months, I did not carry a balance on my visa card, or any card for that matter.
I now will go back to my old way of paying off the credit card every month.
My demand loan is under 4,000$ and in 3-4 months it will be gone, maybe sooner.

I will buy only what is needed and what I can aford. If I do need clothes i will think long and hard as to how much wear I will really get out of them. Material things will be thought out and pondered. 

I will remember the Russian women I met the other night,  they talk about being able to carry all that is valuable to themselves, thier minds and bodies.

Cleaning

There is something about cleaning that makes me feel good about myself. I don't know what it is but I roll with it. Today I pulled clothes out of my closet that I will never wear or are now too big for me and have folded them up for goodwill. I buy too many clothes anyways and now I am getting rid of more than I am consuming.

As for the rest of my house, it is a work in progress. My goal is to have the house a bit cleaner every day than it started out as. An admirable goal.

My gym clothes are really to big, but I'm not yet ready to wear tighter clothes there yet.

I found something really cool last night. My Ex's sister found this woman who will duplicate any picture on canvas for cheap. I think it's time my pad went a bit upscale. Now to find the perfect picture to duplicate.